Unleash Your Inner Confidence: Simple Habits for a Powerful You

Feeling overwhelmed by a lack of confidence? You're not alone. But the good news is, that building confidence doesn't require drastic changes. I've got some easy, quick habits you can incorporate into your daily routine for a noticeable confidence boost. From body language tweaks to mindset shifts and celebrating victories (big or small), this guide will equip you with the tools to unlock your inner confidence and step into your power. So, get ready to ditch self-doubt and embrace a more confident you!

Inner confidence is a key ingredient for a happy and successful life. It shapes how you see yourself, how you handle challenges, and how you connect with the world around you. At its core, confidence fuels your belief in yourself and your abilities. This belief empowers you to take on new and exciting challenges, to relentlessly pursue your goals, and to trust the decisions you make. It allows you to step outside your comfort zone without fear of failure, knowing that even setbacks are valuable learning experiences that make you stronger and more resilient.

Confidence also plays a vital role in your relationships. When you're confident, you're able to be more authentic and assertive in your interactions with others. This authenticity allows you to connect with people on a deeper level, fostering stronger and healthier relationships built on mutual respect. Confidence translates to better performance in all aspects of life, not just your personal endeavors. It allows you to focus your energy and overcome anxieties, such as stage fright, allowing you to present yourself effectively in any situation.

Finally, inner confidence is directly linked to positive mental well-being. It acts as a buffer against anxiety, self-doubt, and the fear of failure. By believing in yourself, you're less likely to be crippled by these negative emotions. This, in turn, leads to greater overall well-being and a happier, more fulfilling life. Inner confidence is the foundation for personal growth and success. It empowers you to reach your full potential and live a truly meaningful life.

There's no magic bullet for confidence, but here are some easy and quick habits you can incorporate into your daily routine for a confidence boost:

Quick habits that make you more confident

Body Language

Stand Tall: Good posture can instantly make you feel more confident and powerful. Straighten your spine, relax your shoulders, and hold your head high.

Smile More: Smiling has a surprising psychological effect. It not only elevates your mood but also makes you appear more approachable and confident to others

Make Eye Contact: Maintaining eye contact shows you're engaged and interested, which translates to confidence.

Mindset

Positive Affirmations: Start your day with positive affirmations. Repeat statements like "I am capable," "I am worthy," or "I am going to have a great day."

Gratitude Practice: Take a few minutes each day to reflect on things you're grateful for. Focusing on the positive can shift your perspective and boost your confidence.

Visualization: Imagine yourself successfully navigating a challenging situation or achieving a goal. Visualization can prime your brain for success and build confidence.

Small Wins

Do One Thing You Avoid: Do you have a task you keep putting off? Tackle it first thing in the morning. Completing a dreaded task is a great confidence booster.

Celebrate Small Victories: Don't wait for huge achievements to celebrate. Acknowledge and celebrate even the small wins throughout your day or week.

Help Someone Else: Helping others is a fantastic way to feel good about yourself and boost confidence. Look for opportunities to offer a helping hand.

*Bonus Tip: Dress for Confidence! Putting on clothes that make you feel good about yourself can do wonders for your confidence. It doesn't have to be fancy; just wear something that makes you feel put-together and ready to take on the day.

Remember, consistency is key! The more you practice these habits, the more natural they'll become, and the more confident you'll feel. Enjoy your Journey!

The Unspoken Challenges of Self-Improvement: When Discipline Breeds Misconceptions

The path to self-improvement is rarely a smooth one. While we often celebrate the positive outcomes of personal growth — increased confidence, better health, and a more fulfilling life — the journey itself can be infused with unexpected challenges. One challenge is the potential for social friction that can arise when our commitment to discipline clashes with the expectations of those around us.

In my own experience, quitting smoking in 2017 serves as a prime example. Recognizing that success depended on unwavering discipline, I embraced a level of focus that turned into a much-needed isolation (I didn’t know it at the time). This dedication wasn’t a reflection of arrogance or a belief that I was “better than” others, but rather a necessary step towards achieving my goal of a smoke-free life. It was about creating an environment conducive to success, free from the social pressures that could potentially derail my efforts.

Unfortunately, the path to self-improvement isn’t always paved with roses. As I embarked on my smoke-free journey, I encountered a surprising obstacle: negativity from some people in my life. Comments like I was “acting better than others” or that “I was detached from relationships and life” stung my soul, but they also revealed a crucial truth:

Growth often requires prioritizing your well-being, even if it means facing social friction.

I realized that when you are on a journey of self-growth you must push down and press forward over anyone’s opinion, feelings, or someone’s doubt. I realized that whoever didn’t like my changes or my methods was none of my concern and truly I began to not even care because I was putting myself first no matter what.

It can be tempting to appease others or conform to social norms, but ultimately, your self-improvement journey belongs to you and only you. While maintaining positive relationships is important, it’s equally important to surround yourself with people who support your growth. Those who truly care about you will celebrate your success, not judge your methods. Truly, the only person who knows what will help you is YOU so trust your insight while on your path.

The negativity I faced initially caused me to doubt myself. “Who do I think I am?” the harsh words echoed in my mind. There was a period where I questioned the intensity of my commitment and even stopped sharing my experiences of self-improvement with anyone. However, this experience also made me realize a valuable lesson: personal growth is not for everyone. Not everyone is willing to make the sacrifices or embrace the discipline required for significant change, and it’s okay because everyone has the right to live their life however they choose.

The truth is, that self-improvement is a personal choice, and you deserve to prioritize yourself above all else if you choose. Don’t let the negativity of others dim your light, especially when you are trudging through that dark, muddy alley of discipline all alone and the load is already heavy enough. Remember, you are worthy, you are important, and you are capable of achieving great things. Never let anyone tell you otherwise, and believe in your limitless possibilities.

Quitting smoking in 2017 stands as a pivotal moment in my life. It wasn’t just about kicking a bad habit; it was about taking control. The unwavering commitment I invested in quitting translated into a newfound confidence I never knew existed. This experience sparked a fire within me, igniting a constant desire for self-improvement in all aspects of life. Saying “no” to cigarettes became a powerful tool, empowering me to prioritize my well-being and embark on a journey of self-discovery. This path of growth has been nothing short of transformative, leading me steadily towards my highest and best self.

The road to self-improvement can be lonely most of the time. When you prioritize discipline and focus on personal growth, it can lead to misunderstandings from those around you. You might hear comments like “You are acting better than others,” but just keep pushing forward. You will face social isolation as you prioritize your goals, but it’s okay, just keep pushing. It’s important to remember that true growth often requires prioritizing yourself, even if it means facing some friction. Remember, the people who truly care about you will celebrate your success, not judge your methods.

Don’t let negativity derail your journey. While some may not understand your commitment, use it as an opportunity to become a powerful example-setter. By prioritizing your well-being and actively pursuing growth, you inspire others to embark on their self-improvement journeys. Keep pushing forward, embrace the challenges, and remember: you are worthy, you are important, and your growth matters. Go for the stars, and let your journey inspire those who are ready to shine. Embrace your Journey!

Goodbye Comfort Zone, Hello Growth: A Cold Shower Revelation

Okay, Storytime! See, I have a love-hate relationship with cold showers. I’ll get on a roll for a while, feeling energized and accomplished. Then, bam! The cozy allure of a hot shower wins me over, and I fall out of the cold shower routine.

This morning was no different. Standing there, about to turn the knob, my mind went into full-on negotiation mode. “Nikole,” it said, in the most loving voice possible, “why the cold showers? Why not just stick with warm water or even cool water? It feels good, it gets you clean, and your mission accomplished. Cold showers are just pain you inflict on yourself and do you even know why? How about some gentle self-care instead?”

See, I talk to myself a lot. Maybe a little too much sometimes. It can lead to some interesting breakthroughs, though! This time, a light bulb flickered on.

“Because I don’t belong in the comfort zone,” I shot back, both to myself and the imaginary voice of warm-water bliss. Sure, comfort is nice to recharge, but I thrive on pushing myself. I love a challenge! Every difficult situation I tackle helps me grow, and I love it! It empowers me!

And just like that, I BLASTED the cold water. For those two whole minutes, I repeated a mantra: 

                                 “I don’t belong in the comfort zone.” 

It was like permitting myself to embrace the discomfort and see it as a stepping stone toward growth.

This wasn’t just about the physical chill of the water. At that moment, I realized something profound about myself. I don’t just tolerate challenges, I crave them. It’s not the pain itself that I love, but the feeling of accomplishment that comes from pushing through it. It’s the knowledge that I’m getting stronger, both physically and mentally.

Today, my cold shower wasn’t just about the stimulating effects. It was about self-discovery. I learned that I can permit myself to grow in ways that fit with me and who I am. This realization felt like a breakthrough, a new piece of the puzzle.

Our comfort zone feels, well, comfortable. It’s familiar, predictable, and keeps us safe. But while it offers a sense of security, it can also become a rut, limiting our growth and potential. Stepping outside your comfort zone, though it might feel intimidating at first, holds the key to unlocking a world of personal and professional advancement. Let’s explore why venturing beyond the familiar is essential for a fulfilling and successful life.

Getting yourself out of your comfort zone

• Personal Growth: It pushes you to learn new things and develop new skills. When you’re comfortable, you tend to stick to routines and activities you already know well. Stepping outside your comfort zone forces you to confront challenges, learn new things, and expand your skill set. This can lead to increased creativity, problem-solving abilities, and a sense of accomplishment.
• Boosted Confidence: Overcoming challenges that initially seem daunting builds confidence. Stepping outside your comfort zone and achieving success, even in small ways, shows you that you’re capable of more than you think. This newfound confidence can empower you to take on even bigger challenges in the future.
• Expanded Horizons: The comfort zone can be limiting. It restricts you from experiencing new things, meeting new people, and exploring new possibilities. By venturing out, you expose yourself to different ideas, cultures, and experiences. This broadens your perspective and opens doors to opportunities you might have otherwise missed.
• Increased Resilience: Life throws curve balls. By getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, you develop resilience. You learn to adapt to new situations, manage stress, and bounce back from setbacks more easily. This newfound resilience equips you to handle whatever life throws your way.
• Greater Happiness: While the comfort zone feels safe, it can also become stagnant. Stepping outside your comfort zone allows you to discover new passions and interests. It can also lead to a sense of purpose and fulfillment that comes from achieving goals and pushing your boundaries. This can ultimately lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.

Remember, getting out of your comfort zone doesn’t mean doing something reckless. It’s about taking calculated risks and pushing yourself to try new things that are still within reach. Start small, celebrate your successes, and gradually expand your comfort zone over time. You’ll be surprised by what you can achieve!

So, the next time you find yourself shying away from a challenge—big or small — remember, that growth often lies just beyond the comfort zone. Blast on the cold water (metaphorical or literal!), embrace the discomfort and see what amazing things you discover about yourself on the other side. Don't forget to love your Journey!

From Barely Scraping By to Word Nerd: My Journey to a Richer Vocabulary

Honestly, vocabulary wasn't exactly my strong suit in school. In fact, I pretty much coasted along, getting by with the bare minimum. Fun activities? Totally down! Boring memorization? No thanks! Looking back, I realize I was shortchanging myself. Who knew a bigger vocabulary could be such a game-changer?

It wasn't until I was 40 that I finally decided to tackle reading a whole book. Full disclosure: before then, if I needed information from a book, I'd grab the Cliff Notes (remember those?) or, nowadays, just Google it. Reading the whole thing? Why bother, right? Wrong! Expanding my vocabulary was exactly the push I needed to open up a new world.

Turning the Page on My Learning Journey

So, how did I actually do it? It all started with a simple habit: taking notes while I read. Every time I stumbled upon a word I didn't know, I'd jot it down. Once I finished the book, it was dictionary time! Understanding the meaning wasn't enough – I wanted to use these new words in my everyday conversations. Sure, sometimes I'd have to pause mid-sentence and say, "Wait, what's a good way to say this?" But the effort was worth it to say the least and it empowered me deep down inside.

Beyond the Dictionary: Confidence Through Learning

There's this weird misconception that a big vocabulary means you're some kind of fancy-pants know-it-all. But trust me, that's not true! In fact, tackling something you're not good at is a total confidence booster. Pushing yourself to learn, even if you feel a little silly at first, leads to not just knowledge, but the courage to share it.

Here's the best part: Expanding my vocabulary wasn't just about using fancier words. It was about deepening my understanding of the world around me. Reading became a whole new adventure, and conversations became richer and more engaging.

So, what are you waiting for?

Don't be afraid to embrace the learning process, even if it feels a little daunting at first. You might surprise yourself with how much you enjoy it (and how much your vocabulary expands!). Here are a few tips to get you started:

• Pick a reading topic you actually enjoy. Who says learning can't be fun?

• Carry a notebook and pen with you. Jot down those unfamiliar words whenever you encounter them.

• Don't be afraid to look silly! Embrace the learning process, even if you stumble a bit.

• Use those new words in conversation! The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll become

Vocabulary Power

• Clearer Communication: A wider range of words allows you to express yourself more precisely and effectively. You can convey exactly what you mean, avoiding misunderstandings and frustration.

• Stronger Writing: Having a rich vocabulary elevates your writing skills. You can create more vivid descriptions, impactful arguments, and overall more engaging written content.

• Improved Comprehension: When you know more words, you understand written and spoken language better. This is especially helpful in academic settings and complex conversations.

• Sharper Thinking: A larger vocabulary strengthens your cognitive skills. It allows you to process information more efficiently and make nuanced connections between ideas.

Reading Benefits

• Knowledge and Understanding: Books are gateways to knowledge on a vast array of topics. Reading exposes you to new ideas, perspectives, and historical accounts, broadening your understanding of the world.

• Improved Focus and Concentration: Reading requires focused attention, which strengthens your ability to concentrate in daily life. It helps you filter out distractions and delve deeper into tasks.

• Enhanced Creativity: Reading sparks your imagination and creativity. By encountering new worlds and scenarios, your brain is stimulated to think outside the box and generate your own ideas.

• Stress Reduction: Curling up with a good book can be a fantastic way to unwind and relax. Reading allows you to escape from daily anxieties and enter a world of imagination and storytelling.

The benefits of vocabulary and reading work together beautifully. The more you read, the more new words you encounter and learn. An expanded vocabulary, in turn, allows you to comprehend more complex books, leading to a deeper reading experience. It's a win-win cycle that keeps your mind sharp, engaged, and constantly learning.

Expanding your vocabulary is an ongoing journey. But trust me, the rewards are worth it! Let's ditch the "barely scraping by" approach and embrace the world of words together!

From Scatterbrain to Super-Organized: How a 6th Grade Agenda Book Changed My Life

Hey everyone! Buckle up for a story about how a 6th grade agenda book totally transformed my life (in the best way possible!). Who knew a 6th-grade agenda book could be a life-changer? ‍That was definitely the case for me!

Back in the day (think awkward middle school phase!), homework was my nemesis. It would magically disappear from my memory as soon as the school bell rang. This, unsurprisingly, led to some less-than-stellar grades.12-year-old me was a total scatterbrain. Homework? More like "home-wait-what-was-assigned?" To say the least, my grades weren't exactly brag-worthy. This is where it all began with the legendary agenda book. I'll explain...

My teacher introduced this system where I had to fill out a daily planner with all my assignments for the day. Not only that, but I had to get it signed by them as proof I knew what needed to be done. Then, after conquering those assignments (woot!), Mom had to sign off too. Talk about double-checking, right? Honestly, at first, I wasn't exactly thrilled. It felt like I was being micromanaged and I was, but guess what? It only lasted half a school year, but let me tell you, that little notebook ended up being a total game-changer!

Suddenly, I wasn't just a homework-avoiding mess. I started setting goals, prioritizing tasks, and actually getting things DONE! It wasn't easy at first, but that agenda book became my secret weapon for organization. It wasn't just about getting my homework done (although that was a major plus!). It secretly leveled up my skills in organization, note-taking, and even goal-setting. Who knew 12-year-old me was such a hidden goal-getter? Of course, back then, the future was all about the next cartoon or what time to meet up at the park to play. The idea of how this would benefit me as an adult never even crossed my mind!

But here's the cool part: writing down my responsibilities, even at that young age, planted the seeds for some seriously valuable habits. I get it now– a plan is like a magic map to success! It takes the guesswork out of what to do next, freeing up your brainpower to actually get things done. Fast forward to today, and guess what? Turns out I kind of turned into a master organizer! Who knew a little double-checking in 6th grade would have such a lasting impact?

There are so many benefits of being organized:

• Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Clutter and disorganization, both physical and mental, can be a major source of stress. By staying organized, you know where things are, what tasks need to be completed, and deadlines you need to meet. This clarity reduces the feeling of being overwhelmed and anxious, leading to a calmer and more focused mind.

• Increased Productivity and Efficiency: When you're organized, you can find what you need quickly and easily, eliminating wasted time searching for lost items or scattered information. This allows you to focus on the task at hand and complete it more efficiently. Having a clear plan and organized workflow prevents last-minute scrambling and allows you to accomplish more in less time.

• Improved Time Management: Organization goes hand-in-hand with effective time management. By prioritizing tasks, creating schedules, and setting realistic deadlines, you can ensure you're allocating your time effectively. This helps you stay on top of commitments, avoid procrastination, and achieve your goals within the designated time-frame.

• Enhanced Focus and Concentration: When your environment and mind are cluttered, it becomes difficult to focus on a single task. Having an organized workspace and a clear plan allows you to block out distractions and concentrate all your energy on the task at hand. This leads to better quality work and improved decision-making.

• Boosts Self-Confidence and Motivation: When you're organized, you're more likely to achieve your goals and complete tasks successfully. This sense of accomplishment builds self-confidence and motivates you to tackle even bigger challenges. Seeing progress and maintaining a clean and organized environment creates a positive feedback loop, keeping you motivated and energized to continue achieving your goals.

And the best part? Sticking to that plan turns those actions into habits. Habits are like little life hacks! They automate the good stuff, freeing up your mental energy for important decisions. Once you establish a positive habit, like exercising or meal prepping, you don't have to waste willpower debating whether to do it - it becomes second nature. This allows you to be more productive, consistent, and ultimately achieve your goals with less effort in the long run.

This frees up even more mental space for you to tackle new challenges and crush your goals. It's all about efficiency, my friend! Efficiency is the magic ingredient that gets the most out of your time and resources. It's about accomplishing your goals with the least amount of waste, whether that means minimizing wasted time and effort on tasks, using the right tools for the job, or streamlining processes to get things done quicker and more smoothly. By focusing on efficiency, you can achieve more in less time, reduce stress, and free yourself up for the things that truly matter.

See the whole agenda book experience changed my life in more ways than one. That agenda book turned out to be a total game-changer, wasn't it? Who knew getting your homework signed by your teacher and double-checked by your mom could be such a life lesson, right? But seriously, that whole experience ended up giving me some seriously awesome skills. Organization, habit-building, and efficiency – those are power tools for life! It's crazy to think that back in those awkward middle school days, all that "torment" (totally feel me!) was actually helping me grow.

Isn't it funny how hindsight is 20/20? When we can look back and see the lessons hidden within those stressful moments. The best part? We just have to be open to learning from them, even when things feel tough. And who knows, maybe you've got some hidden lessons waiting to be discovered in your life right now!

So, the next time you feel like giving up on a new system or routine, remember my story! Sometimes those little "annoyances" can actually be the key to unlocking a whole new level of awesome within you. Enjoy your Journey!

Blooming with Meaning: A Guide to Spring Flowers and Their Symbolism

Spring bursts onto the scene with a vibrant display of colors and fragrances. It's a symphony for the senses. But beyond their undeniable beauty, spring flowers hold a secret language, rich with symbolism passed down through cultures and centuries. Whether you're crafting a thoughtful bouquet or simply appreciating a floral display in the park, understanding these meanings can add a deeper layer to your experience.

Spring has always held a special place in my heart, maybe because I grew up in the Midwest where it truly feels like a rebirth after a long winter. The blooming flowers, the fresh scents in the air, the vibrant colors everywhere – it's all like a giant "WELCOME BACK!" from nature. It fills me with a sense of hope and renewal, like the world is hitting restart and anything is possible. Seeing all the flowers push through the ground and bloom beautifully makes me want to do the same thing! Spring is a natural motivator, reminding us to blossom and embrace the possibilities of the year ahead.

Flowers hold meaning and importance

Symbolism and Communication:

Flowers are a universal language, conveying emotions like love, sympathy, gratitude, and joy. A bouquet of red roses speaks volumes about passionate love, while lilies express sympathy and purity. Different cultures infuse flowers with specific meanings into the things they do. In China, peonies symbolize wealth and honor, while cherry blossoms in Japan represent beauty and fleeting life. A red rose can express passionate love in Paris and fiery emotions in Beijing. Understanding these cultural variations adds another layer to the meaning of flowers.

Flowers represent the cycle of life, death, and rebirth. Their vibrant bloom signifies new beginnings, hope, and growth while wilting flowers remind us of instability and the passage of time. Flowers transcend spoken languages and the shared symbolism allows communication across cultures and time. Flowers can evoke strong emotions and choosing the right flower for the right situation can express what words sometimes can't. For millennia, flowers have played a role in myths, legends, and religious ceremonies. For example, a simple lotus flower can symbolize enlightenment in Buddhism, while the poppy represents eternal sleep in Greek mythology. Flowers can represent new beginnings, the celebration of a special occasion, or a final farewell.

Deciphering the Language of Flowers:

• The Dazzling Daffodil: A cheerful symbol of new beginnings, rebirth, and hope. Daffodils are often associated with Easter celebrations and represent overcoming challenges.

• The Energetic Tulip: Tulips boast a vast color spectrum, with its own meaning. Red tulips convey passionate love, while yellow signifies cheerfulness and friendship. White tulips represent purity and forgiveness.

• The Delicate Lily: Lilies symbolize purity, innocence, and devotion. Their elegant beauty and captivating fragrance make them a popular choice for weddings and celebrations of life. The color white is associated with purity, while pink lilies represent affection and compassion.

• The Vibrant Pansy: Pansies come in a delightful array of colors, each with its own meaning. Yellow pansies symbolize joy and happiness, while blue pansies represent loyalty and honesty. Purple pansies convey royalty and admiration.

• The Fragrant Hyacinth: Hyacinths symbolize new beginnings and rebirth. Their intoxicating fragrance adds another layer of symbolism, often associated with renewal and fresh starts. Blue hyacinths represent constancy and trust, while purple hyacinths express sorrow and regret.

• The Majestic Iris: Irises represent wisdom, hope, and faith. The elegant form of the iris flower symbolizes courage and valor. Purple irises signify royalty, while yellow irises convey passion and enthusiasm.

• A Bouquet of Meanings: Understanding the symbolism of spring flowers allows you to craft bouquets that convey specific messages. A bouquet of red tulips and white lilies expresses passionate love and devotion, while a combination of yellow daffodils and pansies radiates cheerfulness and friendship.

So, the next time you encounter a blooming flower, take a moment to appreciate its multifaceted beauty. Consider the message it might hold, the emotions it evokes, and the connection it fosters with the natural world. From expressing love and gratitude to simply bringing a smile to someone's face, flowers enrich our lives in countless ways. Let them bloom with meaning in your world and always enjoy the journey!

The empowering feeling of being Lost

Ok, so I’m at a lost place in life. I’m sure a lot of people get lost from time to time, and we have to find the way through our path for that time and season in our lives. I got married and started having children young, and I decided to commit and dedicate my life to the people and situations that needed me the most. I made sacrifice after sacrifice and somehow forgot about myself in the process. My children (all but one) are grown and out of the house. Now, I am left to figure out the direction of my life, and I must say, I just feel lost sometimes.

I have come to realize through my optimistic beliefs that lost is not a bad thing. This can happen to anyone who takes their eyes off of their prior goals and commitments for the greater good for an unselfish sacrifice. The beautiful part of being lost means you are in charge of the direction of your growth. You are also in charge of the speed at which you go in pursuit of finding your personal path. When I first realized I was feeling lost, I began to read books that empowered me to grow, and I began to recreate the beautiful, authentic person I imagined myself to be. As I began to grow, I realized that this new person was nothing like the old one, but it felt great, and I loved it. I was addicted to seeking out anything that would help me grow. Even though I was okay with this new person I was becoming, I began to realize that I didn’t even have a target or goal; I was just learning and everything at this point. I was really just aimlessly learning anything that helped relieve my symptoms of feeling lost. I found that having goals and a clear picture of where you are going is always helpful when navigating life. I finally began asking myself, How do I move forward and grow even more with the knowledge and life lessons I have learned so far?

“How do you hit a target you do not have? ~ Zig Zigglar

So let me tell you a story since Zig Zigglar and his quotes have helped shape the last 5 years of my life.

I was about 5 months into my quit-smoking cigarette journey, and I was on my way to a job that I despised to my core. I would get sick just pulling into the parking lot. I was going nowhere here, and I knew it, but I was doing what I needed to do so I could pay my bills. I know a lot of people who have been at this point of being sick and tired and over it on every level, but we do what we've gotta do, right? When I decided to quit smoking, I knew I had to change my entire mindset because, at this point, it wasn’t just a monkey on my back; it had become a full-grown gorilla. I was willing to do whatever I needed to reach my destination of being smoke-free, even if I had to fight a grown gorilla. I listened to motivational videos nonstop in my car because that is what fueled my drive to continue my journey. I was traveling to work one morning, crying my eyeballs out because I didn’t know where I was going in life and I was scared out of my mind. Previous me always had a goal, but it always revolved around other people’s life schedules. I was also still struggling and hanging on for dear life with not smoking anymore. I was on my way up a bridge on a hill when I was listening to a motivational YouTube with Zig Ziglar, and at the very top of the hill he said, “You go as far as you can see, and when you get there, you will always be able to see further.” That right there is what put life back into my body and kept me growing because, at that very moment, I could absolutely see further! I certainly cried harder at that light bulb moment because I could literally see further and it was absolutely beautiful. I was able to see so far. Sunshine, blue skies, and green trees were my outline for my soon-to-be future. I felt a calm that I had never felt before in the midst of tragedy. affirming that it will all be just fine. I took that quote as confirmation that I would find my target that day. I confirmed to not be afraid because once you go as far as you can see, you will always be able to see further.

That day, when I heard that quote, something clicked in me and gave me a new understanding of the work I really needed to do in myself, even while I was lost. I began to think that when I get to the place of being as far as I can see, I want to have strengthened myself, focused myself, leveled up myself, grounded myself, and done that hard interwork on myself that I knew had to be done. I did not want to get to that place of being as far as I could see only to be in a place of almost giving up and my vision blurry from my tears. I also understood that this is not going to happen until I make a decision to wipe my eyes and press forward. I knew I had to put in the actual physical work because, from research, I knew that physical movement would change things. When we can harness our integrity through the hard times, it gives us better clarity on the interpretation of the wisdom that will unfold once we overcome. If we can do the hard work when it’s hard, then imagine how easy it will be to stay consistent with self-growth when the smooth times hit. This was the first day I began to cry but still did the work anyway. I cried, hurt, and dealt with pain for months to come, but my resilience was on fire, and I wasn’t going to let anything stop me from here on out.

What I have come to see in life is that no matter your pain, it’s about the attitude with which you endure it. Are you grateful? Are you consistent? Are you mindful? Is your integrity in line? Let’s decide to go through as courageous, encouraged, bold, optimistic, accountable, resilient, happy, disciplined, and committed. The choice is yours, but just imagine what life will be like on the other side if we decide to go through like a Spartan warrior, pressing and pushing forward without hesitation. Dominating anything in your way! Imagine how strong and empowered you will be in your pursuit of finding your personal path. I remind myself that I am figuring out my life, and it’s okay to be lost as long as I’m on a constant journey to achieve my idea of greatness. Only I can see the vision of where I desire to be, so it’s my responsibility to get me there. I’m sure there will be help along the way, but ultimately it’s your life, and no one will push as hard for you as you will.

When the feeling of being lost creeps into my mind as self-sabotaging thoughts, I begin to embrace my alone time more. Feeling confident in the midst of being alone is comforting to my heart and brings peace to my soul. It hugs me like a warm blanket and soothes me like a hot cup of tea on a cold winter morning. Some of my greatest changes or deepest epiphanies came from being alone. While being alone, I got a chance to unwrap some really hard things that were needed so I could continue on my path of achieving clarity and growth. Our future selves are waiting for us to step into authenticity in the now. Being alone is scary, but again, we must be scared and do it anyway. Be tired and do it anyway. Cry and do it anyway. Be on the verge of giving up but doing it anyway. Getting to know myself was one of the hardest things I have ever done because it forced me to see the good and the bad. It gave me a chance to analyze the character traits that needed to stay and the ones that needed to go. I know now that we will never find who we truly are until we can be alone and go deep within.

One thing I promised myself was that I would go through my journey and process things at my own pace. It’s my life, and I will do this my way. I promised I would not be rushed or slowed down while I was searching my path. I promised I would push down distractions so I could see clearly with my own eyes. I understand that sometimes, while we are lost, people may think that we need help or that loss is a bad thing. The concept of loss is optimistic in my mind. When I am lost, I am searching for my heart’s greatest desire and discovering my needs. The fact that I am taking the time to get to know myself more is the most exciting thing in the world. Affirming who I am with no distractions. Learning my wants and needs. My yes, and my no My tolerations and non-negotiables I am learning to love myself and set boundaries in my life. When I am lost, I learn more about myself, and I always see the raw, real version of who and where I am. Knowing where you are helps cultivate change in the direction you need or desire. How can you grow if you don’t even know where you are?

I heard a motivational video on YouTube by Eddie Pinero, and he said “Going through the obstacle IS the path”. The bottom line is that we all must go through obstacles because that is where the lessons, knowledge, and wisdom lie. No matter if we're crying, sad, alone, discouraged, or lost, we still must go through it. You are responsible for your life’s growth and projection of where you want to go. Let’s commit to being in constant pursuit of growth, no matter how right now looks.

I will never forget that day, driving to the top of that hill, when a quote changed my life forever

that said, “You go as far as you can see, and when you get there, you will always be able to see further.”